The fabulous journey of life.. daahling

Well it IS fabulous... or fab as we might have said way back in the sixties.....;-) but sometimes it's easy to forget all that... and think about it as a journey... and that being this age is along the same lines of being a teenager.. only very different... because whilst we're both evolving.. and growing... we are doing it with a whole load of wisdom...and the teens are not!!
And if you're having trouble with your teens.. then I know a woman who is doing great work with mums and teens... [more about that in a later blog]

Feeling the Wisdom
I was talking with someone who is much younger than me... who has plans to set up in this field... running courses... not the same as me but different.. and I realised that she thinks she's got it all sewn up.. that she's found the key to perfect happiness...she's cooked, sorted, and yet...she's so NOT... [I do like that slang]... and I realised.... I know more because I've lived more life... not that living longer makes someone wiser... but if along the journey you've learned your lessons and even more powerful..learned from the lessons of others.. then you will be wiser..

and that's one of the blessings of getting older..of moving past the dividing line of half your life... it's that we can claim wisdom.... but if we want to be wise we have to become what we are claiming..... to let go of some of the things we hanker after.... from the past.. that have gone and can never come back.. not how they were... there ain't no Tardis or Time Machine that can do that so why bother... ????

The past is just a concept. The only thing that exists is now.

When we learn to wave goodbye to that and step or rather float.. into the future in our imaginations and see it all happening and then return to here and now and act as if it is all going to turn out for the best.. life gets juicy...

I think that's one of the blessings of having lived a life, sometimes in the very fast lane.... and of being able to let go of wanting anything to be any way other than it is now...

So. how about you....

Are you ready to let go of what was and embrace what's now and maybe new?

To get you gotta let go..

1. Let go of trying to be a babe.. don't compete with younger women whether they're ten years or thirty years younger... It's here baby.. the moment when you can no longer
rely on your looks... to get you what you want..insteat
Start to see the beauty of YOU... the jewel inside...look in the mirror, smile and see your lines turn up into a beautiful portrait of a life well lived.. and still worth living...

2. Let go of competing with how you used to be...i.e. going back into the past, remembering with a whistful sigh and going if only.. this is as bad for you as drinking4 lge G&T's or a 2 bottles of red....
Go ahead and imagine yourself evolved... a wise woman... one who has learned about life, is satisfied and content... and realises her life has been worthwhile.. even in small ways... and sometime smore..

3. Let go of Dieting and Working Out saying things like I want to be thinner, I want to get rid of this fat.. I want to work off a few calories..
Start to say that you're going to Get Fit and Healthy - saying it like that shifts your attitude... and is more useful...

Instead consider taking up things like Yoga or Pilates or one of the gentler more calming martial arts like Tai Chi...swimming...Yoga builds up all your muscles too.. but not just a chosen few.... and as for eating healthier food... that's one of the best things you can do.... IMO [in my opinion of course] I lost 18 lbs and got a lot more energy by drinking the greens...[there's a link to it on the side..]

So what is the journey of life? Find out more in a blog to come....where I'll speak about how to move into the last quarter of your life.. and discover amazing riches...

Recommended Reads
life's journey and words of amazing wisdom on all areas of life.. from a man who died a wise man having followed his journey and bliss...
Reflections on the Art of Living - A Joseph Campbell companion - Edited by Dian K Osbon.
Sex gets better after fifty - Sex and the Seasoned Woman - Gail Sheehy
Letting go and honouring who you are -A Woman's Worth - Marianne Williamson

Baby Boomers demand respect!

A large percentage of the baby-boomer 45+ generation have got plenty of spare cash and like to spend it and that makes us powerful. Ignore us at your peril!

We can make you rich - if you show us the respect we deserve !

We like spending money BUT we are discerning and we've learned a thing or two in our life. Treat us with respect, know our needs and cater to us in a way that works for us and you’ll earn our undying loyalty and our dollars and pounds will be yours.

Turn on Tune in and Rake in our Money!

Sadly, not everyone who is trying to sell to the over fifties has turned on to what we really want ... YET!

This morning awoken by a text arriving at 5.00 am – that’ll teach me to leave the ringer on – I find myself sitting at the computer following a trail that ended with a search on Technorati and Google for keywords for women over fifty.

That's because I offer a life-coaching and relationship mentoring program for women [and men too] from 46 to 64 - culminating with a divinely luxurious personal awakening week in St Lucia - but that's for a later blog. And on my search I found a store website called fifty plus – whose purpose apparently is to sell clothing to people over fifty. To find out how I can help YOU...follow the links on the right hand side of this blog

In my not so humble opinion [IMO], they haven't a clue who their customer is and what they want and I wouldn't buy from them on principle.

Give us the respect our dollar demands!

I won't buy goods from a company who's advertising thermal underwear on a model who is probably not more than 25, with fake tits - one of which is larger than the other. And even worse…she’s not wearing a bra. Every baby boomer woman I know - who hasn’t had her tits done and isn’t still living in hippie-land - wears a bra and wouldn’t dream of going out without one so why show underwear modelled on a braless body? Doh! It’s not what we do!

I want to see divine clothing modelled on people MY age AND I want the models to look normal! Can we please see clothing on different sized and aged women – skinny AND larger forty-five AND over? I want to see what a vest looks like with a bra under it because even though my body is lithe, healthy and fit and do a lot of yoga,eat 60% raw food and drink alkalising green drinks [check out my website for the amazing alkalising green drinks that helped me lose 18lbs! ] my tits are real so they don't hold up on their own as well as they used to!

I don’t see clothing for twenty somethings modelled by fifty year olds so I don’t expect to see clothing for my age group modelled by someone who’s half my age.

At least Saga, which appears to be the only UK magazine that caters for intelligent vital fifty plus people has respect for their readers. They use older models and some of them even have grey hair. But Saga isn't for everyone.. I think there's room for a new magazine that gets who we are!

I love the US based magazine 'More' which features models aged from forty to fifty plus and articles like 'Over-40 style guide' and 'Why 40+women rule Hollywood... finally! Sadly 'More' is only available in the States and there's nothing that compares to it here in the UK? Isn't it enough that I'm doing my bit to help men and women over fifty juice themselves up and have a life again??? Do I have to start a magazine too???

What I want to see is a hot, sexy, intelligent UK magazine for the 45+ intelligent, youthful, freedom loving baby boomers - please!

I know there's someone out there who wants to start a magazine that is designed for us to give us what we want. A magazine by people over forty five FOR people over forty five. And I'm sending that thought out into the universe with a full on rocket sized desire!

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Be big and be bold and we'll love you for ever..

And here's one final [for now] item for the 'respect us or lose us' wish list. Use bigger typefaces! If you’re aiming a site at a group of people, it’s quite useful to know a bit about them. And the fact is that most people in their mid to late forties and over who had normal near 20/20 vision, need reading glasses to read small type. AND we don't like having to put them on to ready everything that's out there.

So if by some miracle I find a site that is in a typeface I can read... I get excited... I feel cared for. I say to myself ‘these people are thinking of me’…it’s like seeing the chocolate on the pillow in a hotel or encountering the smiling doorman who uses your name or the check-out girl who remembers you probably won’t want a plastic bag because you like to do your thing for the environment... and who also remembers that your memory does have lapses and that you might sometimes forget your hemp bag and need to use the plastic!

Top of my fifty-friendly list this week is the Italian restaurant in Hertfordshire [I'll publish details in a later blog] who get that their most valued clients are in their mid forties to over fifty. They give away a credit card size magnifier cleverly printed with the restaurants contact details. These guys know who puts olive oil on their ciabatta and they treat them with the respect they're due!

And if they offered a large print menu as well as the magnifier then I’d love them even more and talking of food...

Find out how I lost 18 lbs - by changing the way I eat and drink...

Join my campaign to make the world more fifty-friendly!

Are you fifty-friendly? Do you know a service or organisation who is?I'd like to sing their praises from the rooftops of my far reaching blog.

Add a comment and post a link. Do you know someone who serves our age group and like the fifty plus clothing company doesn't tailor their stuff to us in the best possible way? Let's begin to expose them and hopefully encourage them to tailor to us or lose us!

Be fabulous, Be fun, Be fit and enjoy your Freedom...Fifty is the new Youth!

peta - 54 and three quarters ;-)